It is an often held misconception that someone just slips from being say an ENFJ to an INFJ depending on their extraversion amount. They may become more or less shy and therefore “switch” personality types.
This couldn’t be further from the truth. The term extraversion and introversion refers to the function that a person leads with (their Dominant function). A person’s dominant function will never change over the course of their entire life. It is developed and identifiable at a young age, and only gets stronger as time goes on.
Being an “Introvert” or an “extrovert” as a person is a coincidence that (oftentimes) correlates with a person’s dominant function. However, the difference between Extroverted Feeling / Sensing / Intuiting / Thinking and Introverted Feeling / Sensing / Intuiting / Thinking are quite different.
It’s more than just that one focuses on the outside world, where the other pulls from within. That is a simplified explanation.
Over the next few days, I will compare the leading functions of all the various personality types. It is important that you know what you’re leading function is. You will see why a person does not switch or “is in between an E and I” (This “X” nonsense drives me mad.)
This is because the sites that often do these personality assessments do not explain properly what a personality assessment truly means.
First up will be Feeling as the leading / dominant function.
Extraverted Feeling: ENFJ and ESFJ
Introverted Feeling: INFP and ISFP
The process of Extraverted Feeling often involves a want to connect with (or disconnect from) others and is often shown by expressions of warmth (or displeasure) and self-disclosure.
The “social graces,” such as being polite, being nice, being friendly, being considerate, and being proper, often revolve around the process of extraverted Feeling.
Keeping in touch, laughing at jokes when others laugh, and trying to get people to act kindly to each other also involve extraverted Feeling.
Using this process, we respond according to expressed or even unexpressed wants and needs of others.
We may ask people what they want or need or self-disclose to prompt them to talk more about themselves.
This often sparks conversation and lets us know more about them so we can better adjust our behavior to them.
Often with this process, we feel pulled to be responsible and take care of others’ feelings, sometimes to the point of not separating our feelings from theirs.
We may recognize and adhere to shared values, feelings, and social norms to get along.
Semantics of Extraverted Feeling as a Leading Function
(How people who lead with Extraverted Feeling tend to speak when in a generic, group setting.)
1. Describing fields of relationships and actions that take place between people.
describing influences on living objects
2. Describing external, observable manifestations of emotions
describing emotional states or degrees of arousal
3. Using sonic forms of words as a means of expressing emotions
describing audible behavior and imitating sounds
situating word creation to convey shades of emotion
expressive interjections and exclamations
frequent use of emotionally charged adjectives.
combining emotional adjectives and adverbs that are opposite in meaning.
quoting poems, songs, etc. that show their current emotional situation.
informal, colloquial, “non-dictionary” vocabulary.
intentionally violating the stylistic flow with words that are either highly colloquial or archaic.
intonationally conveying emotional states.
personification of inanimate objects; increasing the number of actors involved in each story.
Dominant Fields of Activity and Topics of Conversation:
evoking emotional reactions in others
changing and creating any kind of emotional atmosphere and any kind of nuances in communication.
strong emotions and impressions.
It is often hard to assign words to the values used to make introverted Feeling judgments, since they are often associated with images, feeling tones, and gut reactions more than words.
As a cognitive process, it often serves as a filter for information that matches what is valued, wanted, or worth believing in.
There can be a continual weighing of the situational worth or importance of everything and a patient balancing of the core issues of peace and conflict in life’s situations.
We engage in the process of introverted Feeling when a value is compromised and we think, “Sometimes, some things just have to be said.”
On the other hand, most of the time this process works “in private” and is expressed through actions.
It helps us know when people are being fake or insincere or if they are good. It is like having an internal sense of the “essence” of a person or a project and reading fine distinctions among feeling tones.
Semantics of Individuals with Intraverted Feeling as their Leading Function
(How People with Intraverted Feeling as their Leading function tend to talk when in a generic, group setting.)
1. Describing one’s feelings and attitudes toward things and people.
influences on feelings
2. Describing relationships between people as a constant factor.
describing psychological distance.
links (between people).
3. Evaluating objects
evaluations that include oaths or insults
constant traits; personality and character traits
evaluating people’s behavior
superfluous use of diminutive and augmentative suffixes
qualitative adjectival evaluations
constructions using the word “relationship”
metaphors related to “links”
Dominant Fields of Activity and Topics of Conversation:
relationships between people
evaluating people (personality and character traits) and their deeds and conduct
evaluating the motives behind behavior
empathy; the ability to feel what others feel and understand their motives